For years, I've been asking my husband to court me and initiate date nights and for years I've been waiting. I knew I needed to initiate a date - again, but because of my pride, I refused to initiate another act to keep the fire burning. Our date nights were sitting in front of the television, so I sat and waited for hubby to make the first move. Okay, I’ll admit it; I allowed pride to control me. Communing with God revealed that my pride was keeping me from receiving date nights. What? How can this be about me? Why do I always have to be the one to change? It took a while to swallow the pride pill, but I planned a special Sunday date with dear hubby. Swallowing my pride immediately set a few things in motion. Saturday morning at 6 a.m., my husband and I were at a local IHOP having breakfast. The exciting part of this occasion was that dear hubby initiated our early morning rendezvous and said there were more dates to come! I enjoyed our spontaneous date and breathlessly awaited the Sunday date I planned.
Humility is the key to marriage. Humility allowed me to express the love I receive from God. We may not think our husband deserves extra love and attention, but we don’t deserve God’s daily grace and we surely didn’t deserve His son’s death on the cross. It’s because of love that we have life! When Godly love is expressed; love reciprocates. It may not happen suddenly, but if we believe in God; it will happen. I’ve been married fifteen years and not only is hubby finally initiating dates, but he’s initiating washing clothes and dishes also! He even watched the Food Network for a minute last night. I love my new husband! Pride was sucking the life out of our marriage, but humility is giving our marriage new life!
Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV)
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.