Hubby and I just completed a week of Marriage Enrichment with our church family. Various topics were discussed and hubby and I shared on the topic of sex. Sex should be freely discussed among church going women, however, it rarely is. God created sex to be pleasurable between husband and wife, so what’s the secrecy? Doesn't the Titus II Woman have to be prepared in this area also? Who else will the younger wives go to for answers? Ladies, it's quite okay for us to feel sensuous and sexy about ourselves and for our men!
I must admit, at the end of the evening, I'm usually beyond the point of tired to even entertain the idea of donning the sex goddess hat and many prayers for a night off have gone up on my behalf. Most women will agree, sex is not high on the priority list, yet it ranks number one with most men. Some men even become moody when they haven't had their medicine - they need sexual healing.
How often is often enough? Who should initiate sex? Should the children be asleep? These answers differ with each marriage, but one fact is true in all marriages - our body is not our own. Does this mean our husband can have sex anytime he wants? Well, uh...yes, it does.
I don't ever want to outright deny my husband, and I thank God he is understanding and respectful in regards to my sometimes fatigued physical state - but this hasn't always been the case. Because of my lack of initiating in earlier years, our marriage suffered. Men want to feel desired and loved as much as women. It took open communication and honesty between us to resolve this issue.
It's sometimes difficult for couples to discuss sex, yet prayer can change this; it did for us. Keeping hubby physically happy is more than important. The lack of sex in marriage, unless agreed upon, only invites more problems.
Whether you make love once a week, once a month, or once every three months is between you and your husband. Frequency isn't the issue, but a healthy sex life, as defined in your marriage, is. So, talk to your husband about sex, but be careful because simply initiating the subject alone may turn up the heat!
I Corinthians 7:3,4 (NIV)
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.